We are wrapping up a year with all the challenges and also the gifts. Many gifts came from the challenges. It feels like a big shift happened as the Winter Solstice occurred. This in between time until New Year's has been a time of deep reflection. At the solstice, we moved, in the Northern Hemisphere, from darkness to greater increasing light. It feels like we were taken from a six month period of going inward, going into our darkness and shadows to learn about ourselves. So much growth and shift has happened and we are not recognizable when we look in the mirror comparing ourselves to a year ago. Take some time to think about this and let the profound difference that is you sink in.
Feel the "current you" which is racing headlong into the "future you." This only occurs in every now. Time allows us to observe change and to have an experience. I sense that we are getting further away from needing the linear progression in time as we have had before, until recently. I sense we are becoming more fluid with the whole experience of time and with getting more into the flow.
It feels different- as planning and knowing what is ahead is not clear in this new era. It requires radical trust in the self to land on one's own feet. Without the knowing, there is a radical trust that all will be okay when we don't know how it will work out Have you made some trust falls and landed on your feet this past year? I have, and it was scary in some moments and exhilarating in others. Perhaps you can relate to this.
What will bring us more into being in the flow is this thing of trusting the now in order to bring us where we need to be. It is really tuning in to see what we want, where we are led by our inner excitement and being true to that excitement.Taking action on the direction of it and making it our guiding star is what being true to our excitement is. This is our authentic self expressing when we feel a pull toward something. The more we do that, the more we are in flow with creation and with our higher self.
Previous New Year's resolutions have been about ourselves making us do something that we may not have had the discipline for every day, in a way that was trying hard and struggling. The energy of doing, having discipline, and making ourselves more perfected has been the old paradigm and way of bringing in the new year. The resolution falls away for most people within weeks or a few months. within this resolution making, there is a distrust of the flow. The flow takes us where we need to be and who we need to be with, in whatever the perfect flow experience is. In the flow, we attract and magnetize that which is a reflection of our soul's guidance In this now, can you accept and love that you are doing the perfect thing for you? What about other now moments? You are always doing the perfect thing as it is what you are doing. The consciousness that you are wanted to experience what you are experiencing.
We could make intentions to love ourselves more. With a deep self-love and self-acceptance for who we are and what we choose, we won't feel compelled to try so hard to be ourselves. I see being authentic as really hearing the voice within that leads us to what feels good, and also tells us what does not feel good. It will help us to say yes to our inner excitement and no to what is not our true calling in a given moment. Sometimes we need to set boundaries with others and say no in order to say yes to us and what matters to us.
A song comes to mind:
I will be gentle with myself
I will love myself
I am a child of the universe
Being born each moment
Hello New Paradigm of Living our Bliss
I see a new paradigm based on following our bliss as individuals. I see in that following our highest bliss as often as possible, we live our as highest potential selves, and the highest frequency. Plus it might be as fun, playful and joyful as can be. In order to get to this new paradigm, we can experiment with a few things. We can love ourselves more and talk to ourselves in our thoughts and with our voices in soothing, loving, and accepting ways. We can follow our excitement more and do what we want.
Ultimately, we are a contribution to others, in this new world that I see, by being authentic and following our bliss. Being empowered in us has the effect of empowering others. We are human beings, not human doings, ultimately. Our society has programs about working, about productivity, about making ourselves better. If we know our own perfection as ourselves, and love this self that we already are; it will turn the programs off and allow a greater fullfillment. We can approach the kinds of things we want to change from a perspective of self-love instead of struggle.
Instead of coming to New Year's resolution making from a place of wanting to improve, how about approaching it another way? How about committing to being authentic to our highest potential self, the truth of what we really want in each now moment? How about refraining self-judgement while being generous on praise and self-love? There is a middle ground of self-reflection with inherent self-love that we can cultivating by being our own inner cheerleader. It takes not looking for validation outside ourselves, but from the integrity of listening to our own inner voice within. We can allow ourselves to slow down and reflect instead of making ourselves do something we really don't have the interest in when it is not in the flow.
A Heart-Based Approach
This approach gets us out of the mind and into the heart feeling our way through with the mind as an ally. The heart takes the command of decision making and direction which is aligned with our higher selves. I see a better community if all were hearing their inner guidance, following it, and respecting others who follow what they feel is right for them. I see more love, respect and freedom. It all starts inside- loving and accepting oneself.
May this be a fabulous year for you. Last year seemed to be about transformation and was intense. This year could be about ease and grace, and being our true authentic selves embodying bliss. May all beings be happy and may each of you experience the unfolding of yourself with complete self-love and gentleness.