“Feeling through to the other side” is one answer that I got, meaning that we are encouraged to feel those emotions to the core of them, whatever they are, in truth and authenticity. They may be negative emotions and there is value to feeling them fully and not resisting them to help us cross the bridge to the other side where we are gradually feeling better and then we are laughing again and fully alive and vibrant, having fun being ourselves. It feels so good to come back into this feeling after having left that state of being. Joy is the truth of who we are yet as humans we experience the gamut of emotions that are not the truth of who we are. The process of feeling these emotions are to bring self-love and self-acceptance for ourselves having them and feeling whatever we are feeling. An extra dose of compassion for the self helps us be okay with feeling what we are feeling and not judging ourselves. Let us embrace and not push away our humanness in feeling guilt, shame, sadness, being annoyed, jealousy, anger, frustration, grief, disappointment, rage, and irritation.
From the human experience we want to escape suffering. This is natural! Yet the soul wants to experience emotions and learn through our experience of being human. You have to admit that times of hardship brought you to times of joy that were richer and deeper than they would have been without the times of hardship? Sometimes going through these times takes us to a completely new and unexpected place we would have never experienced, and it can be rich and deep.
From a soul's perspective, the soul sees the lessons in what we experience and to see the lessons we are learning, like a play in which people are playing roles as characters for our learning helps us. We see from a wider point of view and how the lesson helps us learn why our experience happened. We can create a new narrative of ourselves and even be grateful for the lesson!
There is an ebb and flow to life, to human experience, and it does involve suffering. Not to say it is easy or that we deserve it and should suck it up and bear it. No, it is acknowledging the truth that we all suffer and we all have hard times. No one is exempt. All experience that arises for anyone of us is phenomenal in that 'all that is arising is also falling away,' within our experience. All is consciousness and the suffering is a play within consciousness. The experiences we have are part of the play of consciousness within the greater whole of consciousness. There is something more eternal and permanent than the moment we are in, beyond us. There is a possibility of feeling the eternalness and oneness at the same time as the play within it, ourselves experiencing in the now.
Our own suffering takes us out of noticing others and how they are suffering too. This is natural, however if we can open our eyes to another being's suffering too, it may give us a reason to feel grateful or that we have company on this human journey.
How else can we get to feeling joy in these times? Appreciation and gratitude help shift our emotional set point to a more positive one. It can be tiny feelings of appreciation for the small stuff in life, like our food, our shelter, our bodies feeling good where they feel good, or the beauty of nature or how lovely hearing music can be. The feelings of gratitude and appreciation open our hearts which will make us less stuck in the story of our suffering.
Meanwhile while feeling appreciation and gratitude, we can feel our emotions deeply and authentically with complete self-love and acceptance. Once we feel our emotions to the depth of them and that may mean expressing them, if only to ourselves. It may call us to move the energy physically through movement of our body or some other way. We can feel into the core of our emotions to the seed of what created the discord in the first place. Sometimes it is a feeling leftover from childhood. We can bring in our inner child for dialogue, for loving and healing and for integration. Once we feel the feelings without resistance, we come to a place where nothing is left to feel sometimes. We may have surface emotions that our mind thinks are the ones that are true, and going deeper we realize the core emotions and causes that may be deeper. We come to why what happened did happen. We shift to a new perspective and this is the magic, the alchemy of the Self. That alchemy is integrating the soul self, the human self, and the inner child self. Alchemy is integrating all parts of us into oneness so that inner harmony comes about. Or it may not be so clear as to what is happening and how it happens, and that is perfectly fine. There is a journey and a path to feeling better and our inner being knows it! We can also choose some action to take, or non-action to not take in these situations. This is the integration and a completion.
Then we can then, after we feel the negative emotions, move on and forgive and honor the lessons that a challenging situation has brought us.
We can tune into the truth of who we are that wants us to wake up. The truth of who we are wants us to celebrate and treasure being in this body. It wants us to treasure this life experience, simple things, food, beauty, colors, and nature. The truth of who you are, called the higher self, wants to feel the pleasure of the body in stretching or dancing, in laughing and in singing and all forms of creative expression and everyday living.
The truth of who we are calls us to go into our heart and also to go within in times of emotional distress. It calls us to take our eyes off our problems and in doing so, they problems sometimes evaporate or lessen. The higher self wants us to stop feeling sorry for ourselves but only when we are ready. The higher self holds us in compassion for the challenges of our human experience and suffering always. There is an ebb and flow to positive and negative life experiences and how we interpret them. Trust that all shifts with time and our emotions shift with time. We can honor and celebrate whatever emotions we are having in the moment.
Eventually we can bring the charged feeling over negative emotions to a place of neutrality. We can observe ourselves being. In the observation, we are taken out of the intensity of the feeling of emotions. We can extend ourselves to ourselves with compassion for the heartbreak we may be experiencing, or the suffering. Being with those who are compassionate supports us, however the shift and alchemy is an inside job. It is deciding to find the turning point within in order to feeling better. It is acceptance with no judging of feelings and then the feeling of joy can sneak up on us. The feelings of contentment and joy can land on us like a butterfly.
May you be comforted and supported by the universe through difficult times. Know you are not alone and you are loved, and honored.